Felicity King
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Train Of Thoughts: They come and go!

How thought creates our experience. 

And that's just the way it is!

First and most importantly, thank you. From the bottom of my heart, for reading, sharing and being so encouraging about my first story. It means so much that you took the time to read it and has spurred on a second one!

So let's crack on, jump straight in and stare thought in the face. See it for what it truly is. Explore how we humans get something on our minds and bring it to life, in glorious technicolour. 

Getting to grips with thought has changed everything for me. At last I get it. We and only we, create our experience through the thoughts in our mind. We have this power within us. It is innate. We're all the same, without question. The challenging thoughts still come into my mind, of course they do. I'm human, well most of the time at least! The difference now is what I've come to call my bounce back time (or resilience). Let me give you an example.

 2 days ago I sat down to write this story. I was unloading the dishwasher and suddenly decided to write it, there and then. I left the dishwasher open, pots and pans all over and went with the flow. I wrote my story. At the top of this very editing page are 3 very important buttons!! Save, publish and delete. So in my second ever crack at doing this, I was so focussed on NOT publishing the unedited version, you can guess what I did. I pressed delete. So busy focussing on a goal, so busy creating my own little pressure cooker of expectation. I hit delete. I was devastated, disappointed and for a few moments started to enter the spin of persecution. I didn't do it on purpose, of course not. It isn't the end of the world, for sure. But in those few moments I was stupid, worthless and inadequate. That was at least until  took a deep breath and tuned back into what I know is TRUE. Those feelings were coming from thought. I'm good at those feelings because I've spent a long time perfecting them. Take a negative thought or two in a finite moment and boom! I make them into my own little version of events. My own script and my own biography. Give me an hour or even 10 minutes and on a bad day that can spiral down, down, down. That's where we start creating the future through thought. We can imagine conversations, play out interactions and even work through conflict. What's worse is we literally start to feel the effects of those thoughts, which haven't even happened yet!

Here comes the science bit!

Err, well actually it doesn't? Unlike the shampoo adverts telling us about the intelligent micro particles with their own GPS. You know, the ones with the specially engineered magic balls that know exactly where our hair needs moisture and where it definitely doesn't. Our split ends can be fixed in a flash thanks to these revolutionary biomes and their clever little brains! I know, for goodness sake, what are they thinking back at haircare HQ!!! The truth is, unlike the Loreal lady, there is no science required. To be honest its as simple as this: 

We are lucid beings with with an amazing mind. Thoughts pass through. If we choose to linger on them and shine our conscious energy through them. Bingo. We get a feeling.

And that's why this matters so much to me. My own anxiety and years in the classroom brought me to a BIG realisation. If only I came across this understanding at school. Then I would have been prepared for the REAL world. The world of fending for myself, appreciating the rough and the smooth but most of all, really living and thriving one day at a time. Not stuck on a perpetual incline, always looking to the next horizon to tick something off. Do you know the "I'll be OK when I've..." mindset? Insert the target of your choice. My favourites are lost weight, worked harder, been a more patient mum, phoned my lovely friends and this week, tidied up!!

I am OK. I always was OK and so are you. The mum in me hopes for nothing more than this understanding for my little boys. The teacher in me knows for sure, that it IS the key to enabling any child to tap effortlessly into their own potential. To be comfortable having a go and getting things wrong. Sound in the knowledge that together with their peers and the teachers in their classroom, they are all in this together and together they will find their own answers, solutions and creations. For this there is no script. No teacher can plan for this connection and possibility. That's the whole point. As soon as anyone creates a train of thought with a target in mind, they may as well check themselves straight into the cells of thought prison. And that can seem to be a very hard place to break out of if you keep on adding another layer of restrictive thought. It's the same in the classroom, the office and the boardroom. Whatever your boardroom may be.

I'll talk a lot more about the paralysing effects of planning, targets and firmly rooted goal posts, another time. If your keen to explore this further today, please join my Down to Earth Education community by following the link to the Facebook page and subscribing to the email link below. Here I want to link as many teachers, parents and employers as possible and start to get this understanding, as simple as it is to our classrooms and workplaces and the precious adults and children within them.

We've passed the longest day, freewheeling into the second part of the year with a weekend of lively festival fun. The temperature has dropped and the weatherman is talking about cloud. Look at those clouds for a moment and watch them moving. Thoughts are like clouds. Different shapes, wispy or dense. Sometimes they linger, sometimes they fly by. What will always be a constant is that like clouds, thoughts will come and go. Whether they cloud our minds moment to moment, is entirely in our hands. On a final note, something we do have in common with the Loreal girl and her beautiful mane of shiny locks is that we're definitely worth it! From the moment we are born we are worth it. 

Have a lovely weekend and thank you for reading.

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